What Stays Yours in a New York Divorce

Contributed by Dan Rose, a Senior Local Business Guide Specializing in Divorce and Family Law Services in New York City

Most people going into a New York divorce have a clear idea of what belongs to them alone — the house they owned before the wedding, the money a parent left them, the business they built before they ever met. They are often right about where that property came from and wrong about whether they still get to keep it.

New York protects separate property, but the protection is narrower than it sounds, and it is lost more easily than almost anyone expects.

What the statute actually protects

Domestic Relations Law § 236(B)(1)(d) defines separate property in four categories:

• Property acquired before the marriage, or acquired by bequest, devise or descent, or as a gift from someone other than the spouse
• Compensation for personal injuries
• Property acquired in exchange for separate property, or the increase in value of separate property — except to the extent the increase is due in part to the contributions or efforts of the other spouse
• Property described as separate in a written agreement between the parties

Two details in that list do most of the work in real cases. The first is that a gift only counts as separate if it came from someone other than your spouse — a gift between spouses is not separate property. The second is the exception buried in the third category: an increase in the value of separate property stops being fully separate when the other spouse contributed to it.

The presumption runs against you

Here is the part that surprises people, and it decides more cases than the definition above.

Under New York law, property acquired during the marriage is presumed to be marital unless it is clearly separate. The burden of establishing that an asset is separate rests on the spouse claiming it is — not on the spouse arguing it should be divided.

That is a meaningful allocation of risk. A spouse who knows perfectly well that the money came from their late mother has to be able to show it, years later, with documents. Being right is not the same as being able to prove it, and in a contested case the difference is the asset.

How separate property stops being separate

Three things convert separate property into marital property, and all three happen during ordinary married life rather than through any act of carelessness.

Commingling. Separate funds deposited into a joint account, and mixed with marital money, are presumed marital. The spouse seeking to rebut that presumption has to adequately trace the source of the funds — follow the money from where it came from to where it now sits. Where tracing fails, the presumption stands and the money is divided.

Retitling. Putting a spouse’s name on the deed to a house you owned before the marriage, or converting an individual account into a joint one, is treated as evidence that you intended the asset to be shared. People do this for sensible reasons — estate planning, refinancing, simple goodwill — without understanding that they may have changed the character of the asset in the process.

The other spouse’s contributions. This is the statutory exception at work. If separate property grew in value during the marriage and the growth came partly from the other spouse’s efforts, whether direct or indirect, that appreciation becomes marital to that extent. A business owned before the marriage that the other spouse helped run, or supported by taking on everything at home so the owner could work, does not keep all of its growth on one side of the ledger.

The category people misread: injury compensation

Compensation for personal injuries appears in the statute as its own category of separate property, and people reasonably read that as covering the whole settlement. It does not.

A settlement is rarely one undifferentiated sum. The portion compensating for pain and suffering, and for medical expenses, is generally separate. The portion compensating for lost wages or lost earning capacity is generally treated as marital, on the straightforward logic that the wages themselves would have been marital had they been earned. One settlement, two characters, split along the lines of what each part was paid for.

Which makes the settlement paperwork unusually important. Where an agreement allocates the recovery between categories, that allocation is the starting point for the analysis. Where it is a single undifferentiated figure with no breakdown, the argument becomes considerably harder, and the spouse claiming the separate share carries it.

The commingling rule applies here with full force too. New York courts have treated an injury recovery that went into the marital home as marital property where the separate funds could no longer be traced. The protection is in the statute; keeping it is a matter of what happens to the money afterwards.

A worked example

A spouse inherits $120,000 during the marriage. The inheritance is separate property by statute, and nothing about receiving it changes that.

The couple puts $100,000 of it toward the down payment on a house, taking title jointly, and the remaining $20,000 goes into the joint checking account used for household expenses. Twelve years later the house is worth $600,000 with $180,000 still owed, and the divorce begins.

The $20,000 is gone as a separate claim. It went into a joint account, was spent on the household, and there is nothing left to trace.

The $100,000 is the argument. If the inheriting spouse can produce the estate paperwork, the account statement showing the deposit, and the closing documents showing the funds going into the purchase, there is a credible claim for a separate property credit of $100,000 off the top, with the remaining $320,000 of equity divided as marital property. If those documents no longer exist — and after twelve years they frequently do not — the house is a jointly titled marital asset worth $420,000 in equity, and the claim is worth what a judge is willing to infer.

Same facts, same money, same intentions throughout. The difference is a folder.

Where this goes wrong

The inheritance lands in the joint account

It is the natural place to put it, because it is where the household’s money lives. It is also the single most effective way to lose the claim. An inheritance kept in an account in one name, never mixed, remains traceable indefinitely.

The house gets retitled for a sensible reason

Refinancing often requires both names. So does a straightforward piece of estate planning. Neither is a mistake in itself, but neither is neutral either, and someone who owned a property before the marriage should understand what retitling does before doing it rather than afterwards.

Nobody keeps the statement from the year it mattered

Banks do not hold records forever, and neither do people. The document that proves a deposit came from an estate is usually worthless for a decade and then decisive. Anyone who receives an inheritance or a family gift during a marriage should put the paperwork somewhere permanent the same week.

The premarital business keeps growing

A business owned before the marriage is separate property at the wedding. What happens to it over twenty years is a different question, and if the other spouse contributed to that growth — in the business or by carrying everything outside it — the appreciation is partly marital. Owners are often startled by this because they think of the business as pre-existing and therefore untouchable.

Separate property is assumed to be safe because it was never spent

Not spending it is not the test. The test is whether it stayed identifiable. Money sitting untouched in a joint account for fifteen years has been commingled just as thoroughly as money spent on a kitchen.

What to keep, and why it matters early

The practical advice is unglamorous. Keep inherited or premarital money in an account in one name. Keep the paperwork showing where it came from. If separate funds are used for a joint purchase, keep the closing statement and the transfer records. If an account has to be joint for convenience, consider whether the separate portion could sit elsewhere instead.

None of this is about anticipating a divorce. It is the same record-keeping that matters for an estate, a refinance or a tax question, and it costs nothing while a marriage is working.

Where a claim is already in dispute, the work runs the other way — reconstructing a path through records that may be a decade old. Banks can sometimes produce archived statements, surrogate’s court files are public, and closing documents sit with the title company and the attorney who handled the purchase. It is slower and more expensive than keeping a folder would have been, but a claim that looks lost is worth testing before it is abandoned.

It is also worth knowing that the classification question has a deadline built into it — the date a divorce case is filed fixes what counts as marital in the first place, before any of the tracing arguments above even begin.

Frequently asked questions

Is my inheritance safe in a New York divorce?

An inheritance is separate property by statute. Whether it stays that way depends on what happened to it afterwards — kept separate and documented, it remains yours; mixed into joint finances without a trace, it is presumed marital.

I owned the house before we married. Is it still mine?

The property you brought in is separate. Any increase in its value during the marriage may be partly marital if your spouse contributed to it, and putting your spouse’s name on the deed can change the character of the asset entirely.

What does tracing actually mean?

Showing the path of the money with records — where it came from, where it went, and that it stayed identifiable along the way. Statements, estate documents, closing paperwork. Testimony alone rarely carries it.

Does a prenuptial agreement settle this?

A valid written agreement can define property as separate, and the statute expressly recognises that. It is the most reliable way to resolve these questions in advance, and it can be done after a marriage as well as before.

Is my personal injury settlement divided?

Partly, usually. The pain and suffering and medical expense portions are generally separate; the portion covering lost wages or lost earning capacity is generally marital. How the settlement documents allocate the recovery matters a great deal to that analysis.

My spouse gave me a gift during the marriage. Is that separate?

No. The statute protects gifts from someone other than the spouse. A gift between spouses during the marriage is not separate property.

A note on this article

This article describes New York law in general terms and is not legal advice. Whether a particular asset is separate depends on its history and on the records available to prove it. Anyone facing a divorce where inherited or premarital property is involved should have those records reviewed early, while documents can still be obtained.

Speak to a New York divorce attorney

If inherited money, a premarital property or an injury settlement is part of your divorce, the records proving where it came from matter as much as the asset itself. Aronov Law NY handles divorce and equitable distribution matters throughout New York State and offers a consultation to review what can still be traced.

Aronov Law NY
98-14 Queens Blvd, Queens, NY 11374
Phone: 718-206-1555

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