Stephanie’s Adventures in Singledom: Create the Chase

BY STEPHANIE DOLCE

Being a go-getter isn’t easy, especially when it deals with love and relationships.

Lately, I have been trying to NOT go on the “attack” like I usually do when it comes to guys that I find myself interested in. If you read my previous post a few weeks back, you read that every time I chase a guy it always turns into a disaster! So with that said, there is this guy that I have been developing a friendship with over the past few months. It was brought to my attention from someone else that saw us working together that we just have “clicked” and I never really thought about it until now. So, this guy and I have developed a friendship and now I get the feeling that maybe we could be more than just friends.

Relationships that start unexpectedly are the best relationships, I think I have said that numerous times, but it is the damn truth! Maybe that is why I find myself thinking

At this moment he is going through a divorce, so he kind of has a lot on his plate at this moment BUT a good guy like him, doesn’t come around that often. Not to mention that he is cute, fun, smart, self-confident, sexy, you get the picture.

So as luck would have it, (or maybe it’s that cupid guy) I get to see him this weekend and we get now to work together for another four months, which just means that our friendship we have developed gets to be stronger and the way we have “clicked” gets to be undeniable.

So, if you find yourself in the same situation as I do, here’s what you can do and what not to do, that I will be doing this weekend to make my feelings known without having to ruin the bonding of friendship that is taking place.

A woman’s confidence is most likely the top personality trait that makes you attractive to your guy. There is something about a woman that is self-assured that men find irresistible, so Making him work for the prize of you a little bit, doesn’t hurt, BUT , the best thing NOT to do is play games. Nobody, women or men, like to play games. If I wanted to date someone who played games, then I would have dated Milton Bradley. Games are a total turn-off any way you look at it. Guys can detect when you play games and they will lose interest. You don’t want to play hard to get, but instead be the person hard to forget. You want to ultimately be the person you hope to find.

Flirting is a great way to get his attention and make him want to pursue you. This is a very fun way to get him to chase you. Most guys like the chase element of a relationship and tend to be much more interested when they are allowed to do that.

So with that said, the easiest thing to get a guy to chase you is when they see that you look mind-blowingly-sexy and that any guy COULD step up and have you. This motivates them to move (and move fast) to make sure they get you and don’t lose their chance. That’s actually the core lesson about getting men to chase you; they have to feel they could attain you, but they also have to feel like if they don’t take action they will LOSE you. Remember, seduction is not about being good looking, it’s all about looking good! Men are not attracted to the way a woman looks, they’re all attracted to the way you dress, talk, flirt, tease, and behave. That in the end WILL create a powerful physical attraction toward you.

So cheers to all the single ladies out there who like me, will be getting their game on this weekend.