Stephanie’s Adventures in Singledom: How Online Dating Sites Dupe People Every Day

BY STEPHANIE DOLCE

Online dating is good for one thing, and one thing only: it knows how to dupe its users into thinking that they truly will find their “perfect match”  but what they really are doing is making you pay for something that you can find ANYWHERE: and that is love. Here are fifteen things you probably never thought about or know when it comes to online dating:

15. The Studies and Research

Any time a dating site “claims” it has done numerous studies that show how “successful” it is, that is how they dupe you into believing the lies.  Any study that a dating site discusses was always paid by the dating site it itself.

14. Algorithms and Questionnaires

Any site that “claims” to be able to match you to your perfect mate if you fill out all 60 questions, is a hoax. First off, there is NO scientific evidence that backs up these algorithms. Secondly, these questionnaires need to be answered honestly and they aren’t.

13. Lack of Body Language

As I wrote in my book, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid?” Body Language makes up for 55 percent of the total impact of whatever your message you are sending is going to be.  Without seeing a how a person is reacting and just going on their “words” the entire evaluation of who a person truly is, is being lost in the process.

12. The Real Me Is Lost

It’s as easy as a click here and a click there to write up a very impressive dating profile. About 95% of what is written are exaggerated and everyone lies about salary, job, living conditions, hobbies, weight, body mass, and some even put a fake picture up, just to get people’s attention.

11. Scams

The online dating world is filled to the brim with scam artists all who use emotional hooking to get their prey. 1 out of every 10 users is a scammer. Guys who get women to send them money or use them in such a way are on EVERY dating site you can find.

10. Sexual Predators and Criminals

The online dating world is also filled with criminals and sexual predators. Again, its 1 out of every 10.Remember, the FTC and FDA don’t regulate these sites- ever!

9. Married Men and Women Are On Them

Some dating sites just don’t get the meaning of the word, “dating” and allow for married men and women to look for sex so they can cheat on their husbands and wives. And there are actually some online sites dedicated to helping married folks cheat which is disgusting! Again, it’s 1 out of every 10 on those dating sites that are married and don’t spill the beans on that either.

8. How They Get You To Subscribe

Think about this, if they claim that their scientific algorithms work, why do you need to spend $239 over 12 months to find someone with whom you should totally click with right away?

7. Coupledom

If you already have NOT been successful with women or men, outside the internet, what makes you believe that you will be successful because you are using a popular dating site? New research indicates that internet dating websites offer several benefits to singles seeking companionship, but generally do not improve the odds of finding a lifelong partner or a healthy long-term relationship.

6. Lies, Lies and More Lies

Two Words: Choice Overload.  This is where people undermine their ability to make a good, well thought out decision due to having way too many options available to them. SO most likely you will end up “thinking” that you chose the “correct” partner, when in fact you picked the wrong one.

5.  The System Fails Every Time:

What every site has failed to recognize is that there really is no way to successfully predict that a relationship will last, especially when the most crucial information is not collected:

A) Individuals Characteristics of each partner which include personalities, attitudes and if each partner is relatively stable.

B) Quality of interactions – This can only be measured in person, not online.  This includes how well the couple will communicate and also support each other.

Unforeseen Circumstances: This includes stress, financial problems, cultures, family issues, etc.

4.  Love, Love and More Love

One of the things that all these sites have in common is this: The insert fear that unless you are on their dating site you will NEVER find your “soul-mate.” They tug at your heartstrings to make you believe that you mate is on the other side of your computer screen, when the truth is that you can meet the love of your life ANYWHERE.

3. Love Is Not Like Going Shopping

Finding a partner is not like finding a new car or a new pair of jeans. You can’t simply wake up one morning, say to yourself, “I need a husband or wife,” and then look through thousands of models until you find the right one.

2. If You Have No Time For A Relationship Get Off The Internet

ALL relationships take time, effort and energy to work. So just because you can “casually” date with the help of online dating, doesn’t mean that you should be on there in the first place.

1. They Try To Run From The Truth

Zoosk and Match.com won’t let me post this information on their Facebook page and they don’t even want to have a conversation about my research- so by them doing that, what do you think they are hiding?